I would have had the exact same reaction as you, thinking it must be some flash, arrogant git taking liberties! I’m always checking that people who park in the disabled spaces have a blue badge displayed! At least you could say we are looking out for others! Don’t be hard on yourself, it’s the human condition. We are so constantly bombarded with instances of dreadful, selfish and nasty behaviour that if someone does something nice we are surprised!
Oddly, I saw a man in my local market town today who was wearing shorts and he had one of those metal artificial legs, and for some reason I felt the urge to shake his hand (I didn’t of course!). We all make snap judgements, perhaps we evolved that way, to quickly decide between friend or foe. The fact that you felt so bad shows what a lovely person you really are! x
You hit on a good point there. Yes, there ARE lots of instances of selfish behaviour, BUT unless we absolutely know otherwise we have to try and keep our minds open, because if we don't, the a***holes have won. x
Dear Andrew, the experience you have shared with us is a testament to your strength of character and compassion. The fact that you quickly recognized the experience of judging another (which we have all done throughout our lives), and took ownership of it, speaks volumes in the most positive way of your integrity. We can all learn an important lesson from your willingness to immediately recognize that what you presumed was happening was in actuality only a story, based on assumptions, that you were telling yourself. Please know that your honesty and compassion shines so brightly and makes our world all the better because of your presence in it. Thank you for sharing this experience with us, and may you and your precious Dougal enjoy your next great adventure, wherever it may take you both. With heartfelt gratitude, always, Nancye :-). P.S. ...and enjoy a cup of tea/coffee, and/or a biscuit, along the way...
Aww thanks Nancye! Yes, I guess by 'owning it' and writing about it is a way to help process the thoughts and act as a reminder to myself to be more open-minded. Thanks for the coffee :)
Oh I know exactly what you mean Andrew! It's a shock when you realise you're not practicing what you preach! I always try and behave the way I think others should, then it hits you like a bombshell when you realise you have just done exactly the same thing! At least you realised it in time and didn't embarrass yourself! That would have been a lifechanging moment!! But that's part of life and learning about yourself & realising you're only human after all and we all make mistakes which is the best way to learn about yourself! It can be very uplifting and mind blowing in fact to realise exactly what makes you tick! I'm still learning, I think we all do for the most part of our lives and I have to say that at this present moment in time, I'm very happy with myself but I know I still have much to learn! I'm contented with my lot!! Not going to get too serious, that would never do! I laugh more than I ever have, mainly so my BP doesn't soar!! Life's too short! Yawn!! But it is isn't it?! I'm determined to enjoy every single minute there is of my life from now on! Right, I'll stop boring you and tell you that following you for these past few years has been enlightening and really helped me believe it or not! For that I thank you enormously from the bottom of my heart! (really mushy but I don't care!) You're a wonderful human being, intelligent and solicitous (just looked that one up!!) Take care, much love to you and of course Dougal who Holly has got the hots for!! Hugs xxx
Thanks Anne! Yes, it's so true that we need to take a hard look at ourselves before we criticise others. I wish some of the trolls on my channel would also think the same! :) xx
They're jealous, that's all! People like that only ever knock you when it bothers them that you are good at what you do and they're not! How I look at it is if they're knocking me, they're leaving somebody else alone! You care for others which is quite evident, they don't. They also don't love themselves which is what's behind it! Love yourself, not conceited or full of self-importance but confident & upstanding. Just be you! xxx
I would have had the exact same reaction as you, thinking it must be some flash, arrogant git taking liberties! I’m always checking that people who park in the disabled spaces have a blue badge displayed! At least you could say we are looking out for others! Don’t be hard on yourself, it’s the human condition. We are so constantly bombarded with instances of dreadful, selfish and nasty behaviour that if someone does something nice we are surprised!
Oddly, I saw a man in my local market town today who was wearing shorts and he had one of those metal artificial legs, and for some reason I felt the urge to shake his hand (I didn’t of course!). We all make snap judgements, perhaps we evolved that way, to quickly decide between friend or foe. The fact that you felt so bad shows what a lovely person you really are! x
You hit on a good point there. Yes, there ARE lots of instances of selfish behaviour, BUT unless we absolutely know otherwise we have to try and keep our minds open, because if we don't, the a***holes have won. x
Dear Andrew, the experience you have shared with us is a testament to your strength of character and compassion. The fact that you quickly recognized the experience of judging another (which we have all done throughout our lives), and took ownership of it, speaks volumes in the most positive way of your integrity. We can all learn an important lesson from your willingness to immediately recognize that what you presumed was happening was in actuality only a story, based on assumptions, that you were telling yourself. Please know that your honesty and compassion shines so brightly and makes our world all the better because of your presence in it. Thank you for sharing this experience with us, and may you and your precious Dougal enjoy your next great adventure, wherever it may take you both. With heartfelt gratitude, always, Nancye :-). P.S. ...and enjoy a cup of tea/coffee, and/or a biscuit, along the way...
Aww thanks Nancye! Yes, I guess by 'owning it' and writing about it is a way to help process the thoughts and act as a reminder to myself to be more open-minded. Thanks for the coffee :)
Oh I know exactly what you mean Andrew! It's a shock when you realise you're not practicing what you preach! I always try and behave the way I think others should, then it hits you like a bombshell when you realise you have just done exactly the same thing! At least you realised it in time and didn't embarrass yourself! That would have been a lifechanging moment!! But that's part of life and learning about yourself & realising you're only human after all and we all make mistakes which is the best way to learn about yourself! It can be very uplifting and mind blowing in fact to realise exactly what makes you tick! I'm still learning, I think we all do for the most part of our lives and I have to say that at this present moment in time, I'm very happy with myself but I know I still have much to learn! I'm contented with my lot!! Not going to get too serious, that would never do! I laugh more than I ever have, mainly so my BP doesn't soar!! Life's too short! Yawn!! But it is isn't it?! I'm determined to enjoy every single minute there is of my life from now on! Right, I'll stop boring you and tell you that following you for these past few years has been enlightening and really helped me believe it or not! For that I thank you enormously from the bottom of my heart! (really mushy but I don't care!) You're a wonderful human being, intelligent and solicitous (just looked that one up!!) Take care, much love to you and of course Dougal who Holly has got the hots for!! Hugs xxx
Thanks Anne! Yes, it's so true that we need to take a hard look at ourselves before we criticise others. I wish some of the trolls on my channel would also think the same! :) xx
They're jealous, that's all! People like that only ever knock you when it bothers them that you are good at what you do and they're not! How I look at it is if they're knocking me, they're leaving somebody else alone! You care for others which is quite evident, they don't. They also don't love themselves which is what's behind it! Love yourself, not conceited or full of self-importance but confident & upstanding. Just be you! xxx
Cheers Rog! Yes, I don't want to shout about it in case permissions get withdrawn at the 11th hour... But keep your fingers crossed!